Why Romance Dies for Men

romanceHas this ever happened to you? You meet a guy. He’s handsome. Nice. Interested.

You have a great time together. You know it’s too soon to think that way, but you wonder if he’s “the one.”

Then one day he stops texting. Stops calling. Stops answering your calls. Won’t even talk to you. You ever wonder why men do that (and what YOU can do so you never have to go through that again?)

If you have, you need to go read this article right now: Capture His Heart Review.

This article is by James Bauer and it gives you Xray vision into a guy’s mind…
Explains the real reason guys “disappear” and shows you how to close the “Gap” between you and a guy so he can open up and truly be yours.

Read it now. It’s a great use of your Saturday and could change the way you interact with men forever. And if that special guy in that life just isn’t as romantic as you need him to be, go watch this special presentation . . .

See, in this video my friend Brian teaches you how to use his “Emotional Turbulence Formula” to actually shut down the “unromantic” part of a guy’s brain. And basically forces him to put down his damned phone. Stop taking you for granted and how to capture his heart.

And give you the passion and romance you crave (without having to beg, plead, nag or feel like you’re acting like crazy person.)

You actually ask yourself why men simply QUIT being tender suddenly?

You connect with a male, you are in love, you get in a romantic relationship and despite the fact that you believe you ought to know much better part of you nevertheless thinks it is will be amazing and intimate and coupled once and for all.

And next, virtually out of nowhere, out of the blue he has watching and caressing his ipad device rather than you.

Which unfortunately, sort of sucks.

It is by my pal and describes the psychological confusion method of essentially making a man to be intimate once again. Simply employ this easy strategy and he’ll drop the iPad, tear himself aside from the television and truly be YOURS for some time.

And it is effective whether or not you have been in a romantic relationship for 4 months or 40 years.

Which, kind of sucks.

It’s by my friend Bryan and explains the “emotional turbulence” technique of basically forcing a guy to be romantic again. Just use this simple technique and he’ll put down the iPad, tear himself away from the TV and actually be yours for a while.

And it works whether you’ve been in a relationship for 3 months or 30 years.

Women Use Venus Factor Program Without Logging Into the Community

Oh girls, I haven’t reported in a while. As far as metrics go, awaiting changes as I participate in Beeps’ stellar NO EXCUSES Challenge. There ya have it.

I do get pretty deep in my head. I can’t even tell you sometimes what I’m thinking or feeling. I just get in there and begin processing it all and over-analyzing it.

Deep thanks to Alisha and Susie for helping me and talking me through it. Got my head back in the game and am loving myself, and just doing my thing again. Alisha’s podcast and texting with her (she is an awesome VI check-in buddy!) and plenty of beautiful talks with Susie. I can’t tell you what a change that has been for me. They helped me realize when I hate myself and feel shame, guilt, and despair, it keeps me from moving forward and getting back on track. My identity is NOT my metrics.

My take-outs are this:
1) Make friends
I am sure many women use Venus Factor program without ever logging into the community. And that is absolutely fine. But for myself, I have made some beautiful friends here. I have known some of you since I first logged on two and a half years ago (!) and still count you as some of my dearest friends. It is so important to give and receive love, help, and more love in our community.

2) Forgive yourself
Quit beating myself up and forgive myself. Realize, life is not over because I gained a few lbs or my metrics are up, or aren’t Venus quite yet.

3) Get back on that horse
On the other hand, don’t stop and hibernate. Get in my Venus workouts http://www.venusindex.com/, eat at deficit cals, and get in my steps, cardio, dancing – whatever extras I’m doing. No need to overthink it. Do it, track it, and enjoy life.

4) Eat carbs
I feared them for a short while. Now, I still won’t eat wheat. But I discovered eating a little healthy, non processed starch was nice to do after several months of avoiding all starches and grains. I found this great podcast, and listened recently to an interview. Between Nate Miyaki and Susie, I decided since I am lifting 3 times a week that some carb is really sane and and actually most necessary. I can tell, since I feel better already just from having a small serving of white rice or potatoes daily.
Click here and select episode “RTR014 – Nate Miyaki: The Great Paleo Debate, White Rice Isn’t Evil, and How To Eat To Support Your Training & Physique Goals”

5) Rest up
Seriously, some sleep did me good after all of the crazy schedule that threw me into a fishtail spin.

6) Take the vow
I’m serious: eat up to weekly RTD/VI Nutrition Calculator cals recommendation. I did have a few necessary days where I listened to my body because I just couldn’t eat a thing. (A few times a year I experience this phenomenon. My body refuses food and my appetite disappears for 2-3 days. I just go with it.) And some days it was a little scary because the natural response is to eat super low and cut cals hard. BUT I find it is counter-productive for me in the long run.

Basically I loosen up, I get into the game again, and I go with it.

healthy-weight-lossI do get pretty deep in my head. I can’t even tell you sometimes what I’m thinking or feeling. I just get in there and begin processing it all and over-analyzing it.

Deep thanks to Alisha and Susie for helping me and talking me through it. Got my head back in the game and am loving myself, and just doing my thing again. Alisha’s podcast and texting with her (she is an awesome VI check-in buddy!) and plenty of beautiful talks with Susie. I can’t tell you what a change that has been for me. They helped me realize when I hate myself and feel shame, guilt, and despair, it keeps me from moving forward and getting back on track. My identity is NOT my metrics.

Deficit calls are set. This is good, as I’ve been eating at maintenance levels on and off for the past month or so.

Workouts are set in the system. I lift 3 times a week. I also throw in cardio. Cardio is not part of the challenge. It is “No Excuses” in my head. But not counting it weekly for challenge. It’s just part of life now. I need the extra steps, and the walking. I sit a lot at my job. I hate sitting this much. Drives me crazy. And my butt gets sore from sitting.

Side note: Did you all realize that sitting shortens your hip flexors which can contribute to back pain?! We sit too much. A friend of mine lives in Ukraine; his wife is Ukranian, he is American. She wears a pedometer and walks (HOLY PINK PAGODA) 20,000+ steps a day. Walk more, move more. It all adds up.

SO here are my little moments:
During the practice week of No Excuses, I went shopping. I successfully buttoned up a pair of size 14 super skinny leg jeans at Old Navy. now, I felt like I had been poured into them, and had some serious muffin top. I bought size 16s. I slightly regret the 16s, because I forgot how much ON jeans and pants stretch out. But otherwise, I’m happy about it.

I am having those lovely but not-so-lovely deficit feelings. Throat is achy, hip bones are sharper, body is more sensitive to fatigue and sleep. Okay, I’m going with it!

My sister keeps asking me if I have lost weight because I look so good the past couple of weeks. The only changes are I’m walking intervals and eating at deficit. I haven’t lost inches yet. I’m bloated. AND my hips and thighs feel fuller from the walking intervals. I think I enjoy longer, slower cardio. But it’s a nice challenge. I have noticed my VO2 capacity has increased, and my walking speed is better. So I’m getting there. I’m sticking with it for the full 8 weeks and then will re-evaluate.

I’m lifting, and I have noticed I’m a little stronger. I baby myself a little bit. I had fibromyalgia. I also noticed that joints can be “tweaky” and shoulders especially take a lot to heal if you push it too hard too soon. But I am stronger with my upper body lifts. I don’t push it with lower body lifts. I don’t care if I can squat my own body weight. I do care if I can easily slip into size 12 jeans.

I’m just beginning the cut and waiting to see what the end of January brings for metrics. I feel fluffy. But… Fluffy fat is good, girls! It means a whoosh is on the way. So stand tall and hold firm! Absolutely NO EXCUSES at this point. Now is precisely the time to put your head down and grind out that deficit!

Look for the little moments and keep it going girls. If need be, take a moment of self care. That was Beeps challenge, and I almost didn’t want to do it. But I am going to.

BECAUSE…this girl (ME!) is visiting LA IN MARCH! I am seeing the ocean, for the first time in my life. I want my hips and thighs to be smaller and leaner!! And I want to feel really good about myself. SO it’s NO EXCUSES through March 6th for this girl.